Should a man show up at his girlfriend’s workplace around lunch time, he shall be chided by the woman for coming empty handed.
“Awusangiphatseli neLunch Henry?”
Of course, the guy would be guilty, start explaining and even apologise for the oversight. In the mind of his girlfriend, romance comes with the man’s thoughtfulness to buy her food — even in circumstances where he has not had lunch himself because akanamali.
However, the blueprint of this narrative is not there to engrave romance alone, but to expose how fussy, demanding and nonsensical some women can become each time they indicate how entitled they are to a boyfriend’s pocket.
Part of the reason she demands lunch isn’t necessarily hunger. It is often a window through which she wants her friends and colleagues to see that uyajola — that there is a man who shows up.
It could be something as petty as a lunch pack she can afford herself. Yet boyfriends have adhered to this demand. Sometimes they initiate it themselves — paper bags of assorted meals — so they can be considered romantic and caring.
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There is nothing wrong with a boyfriend occasionally bringing his woman food natembona enkosolweni yakhe dzadzewetfu.
The imbalance begins when the lady becomes fussy, demanding and wrecking your nerves — kantsi utawukhipha imali yakho la.
In the event you check on her at work and ask what she wants for lunch, you may have just touched a beehive.
She may dilly-dally, changing her mind repeatedly. You may spend an entire hour trying to establish what your girlfriend actually wants.
If she becomes specific, it may be menus from places you do not even know. You will scale the width and circumference of the city searching for such delicacies.
The amount ordered could suggest you are buying for the entire office.
One man bought his girlfriend a simple beef stew. She rejected it in his presence and handed it to a security guard:
“I don’t eat starch and beef fana.”
Some claim allergies after giving you full freedom to choose. Others order the most expensive menu and fail to finish it — because they are not footing the bill.
In some cases, the girlfriend spends the entire “romantic lunch” glued to her phone, barely acknowledging the man paying.
Is it still romance at that point?
A man once mentioned passing by his girlfriend’s place. She insisted he buy “a few small things” for her kitchen. The WhatsApp message that followed was a grocery list for an entire month.
He bought the items, dropped the shopping bags at the door — and walked away from the relationship.
Because sometimes, through a simple lunch gesture, a man can find himself financing an entire household.
This should not be about food.
It should be about a gesture from a man who thinks about his girlfriend — not about demands and entitlement.
Women love a thoughtful man. But gentlemen who bring lunch to their girlfriends at work must set boundaries.
Majita, they have no limits how far they can go into your pocket — even in something as small as a lunch pack.
