The pandemic of married men keeping girlfriends clandestinely and officially hits the marital stable across the globe. It can only differ from continent to the other country as shaped by variances in culture, custom and tradition.
Society is very much divided on the issue of a man having a girlfriend for the latter is branded kutsi ugane indvodza yemuntfu notwithstanding that polygamy is allowed in this country so long as one ain’t married in civil rites. For any woman then to be your second wife, she first must be your girlfriend and your wife is apt to know not only about her, but also bound to meet and acquaint with her.
Naleti letashada boShadrack bafana bekerk, nabo banato tintfombi on the sides. Scales can bhet you a dime, married women all know their marriage is being shadowed. Even if the guy is a Casanova with many women, there shall always be this one who threatens make ekhaya and potentially can replace her.
Look, this woman your husband dates outside marriage embodies all he may ever desire in a woman and could have long married her kube akesabi wena.
Now, whilst her being troubles you maritally, emotionally and otherwise, what would happen if she died and your husband is grief-stricken. All along he had been very discreet about this affair. You may have confronted him on same with empirical evidence, but now he openly weeps, mourns and grief-stricken ngoba vele ufelwe ngumuntfu lamtsandzako.
That would be your attitude, reaction and disposition towards nangu babe waBanongile, ahholola busuku bonkhe because of his love of another woman just dead? Scales wonders if, as a married woman you would be naïve to express your sympathy or regarded as cruel not to care a damn about this loss.
Society was mourning a tragic death of a vibrant woman universally known for massive achievements in the corporate platforms. She was known to have been a chief strategist and saved many institutions from the brink to stardom, yet she remained unmarried in her matured thirties.
She, however, had a handsome son at high school and the two stayed at an upmarket house in an urban setup wherein other corporate gurus reside.
One vehicle, a battered van was in the habit of coming in through the gate on weekends, in the morning and would be seen leaving the same place after dusk. Of course, the driver and his ramshackle car would be there for the entire weekend.
Urban people abatikhulumi tindzaba tabomakhelwane hence there was no prying who this frequent visitor to the strategist’s house was.
Mrs Mavimbela, Nonophile, joined the world in mourning this woman she didn’t personally know but acquainted of her death and fame through flooding all media platforms.
She was perturbed, however, to see her husband Mcobosheli Johannes Mavimbela really distraught and closer inspection indicated kwakukufa kwalosisi. She later learnt from friends, relatives and colleagues the deceased was her hubby’s long-time girlfriend, nalokwemfanyana the world was sympathising with was a half-sibling to her own children. When he confronted him, he didn’t deny the affair but was so aggrieved he had no time for the marital interrogations.
She also started to cry hysterically, not because she grieving as well but principally because she had been cheated and was blind to what everybody knew.
Her husband had an affair with a very famous woman, accomplished in many spheres in life yet he kept it as private as he could until the latter died. She lost her sympathy for the lady.
What of the scenario, wherein as the wife, you have known met and even confronted the said girlfriend. No matter how much confrontation have ensued between all the parties your husband would just not leave the women- then she dies!
It could be sudden, tragic or even medically expected. How can you as a wife to the boyfriend react when the world accuses you to have had a hand in the woman’s death. Lugogo lwemuntfu alubetselwa phansi, lwelekwa emahlombe emuntfu suspected to have been umtsakatsi la.
Lomanono Mkhaliphi was so unremorseful of her affair with Gamedze that she would show up even in the guy’s family gatherings noma angafutseka aze afune kubhama njengesicoco umgcaki. This time she took to a mysterious sickness shortly after having been to some anniversary celebrated in the family.
When she succumbed to death after a gruesome ailment kwatsiwa wadliswa ngulomfati wagamedze shevu lemcimbini.
The husband sailed along the rumours and false accusation ahholola kutsi yena ubulawele intfombi takhe. Lo and behold, there came the memorial service day where honest family members to the deceased declared to the mourners, she had been long a sufferer and patient of pancreas cancer which was complicating year by year.
Umlobokati webantfu was absolved of the terrible, unfounded and cruel foundations. Coming back to the house, wavele wabopha umtfwalo lomake wemuka.
He just couldn’t be humiliated by a man, her husband and accuse her of having killed his shenanigan ngekutsi usebuhlungwini bekufelwa singani sakhe.
The death of your husband’s girlfriend can shatter and tear the very family he had been hiding this affair from.
The guy rides on his grief and forgets he is your husband and shouldn’t have had an affair in the first place.
This woman captured the attention of every mourner at a funeral eMbikwakhe for not only did show up late, but she was also flamboyantly dressed in all black, calm and composed. A man at the front row became overly agitated. He was the late comer’s husband and boyfriend to the deceased woman her everybody had come to bury.
Rumour has it that the couple had been distressed by this affair and the husband was opting out of the marriage, asehlule nelisontfo imbala kanye nemfundisi nebandla to reconcile with his wife.
The guy had started instituting divorce so he could marry lentfombi yakhe le. Tragedy struck when the said girlfriend was caught in a freak accident outside the confines of the country.
Upon confirmation, the husband went into grief. This afternoon his wife stealthily followed him to lekhakhakhe lelisha for she just wanted to know atokuya naye emngcwabeni.
Those who knew the affair between her husband and the deceased found it inappropriate. Others wondered who she was to who amongst the bereaved members.
No sooner had the procession started for the graveyard than she disappeared and mysteriously as she came. It appears the husband do not continue to pursue the divorce proceedings but his grief as all to see.
When he calmed down, it was the woman’s turn to press on the divorce citing that affair with the deceased woman. Some men can really hallucinate over a woman they date outside the ambit of their marriages.
He conducts himself like he was never married to his wife but to the girlfriend. In the worst case scenario wherein, the girlfriend may happen to die, very few people would expect the wife to be sympathetic and go on to comfort her husband.
